Embracing being a carrier species and babywearing my twins.
I instinctively carried my babies without realising that humans are biologically designed to do so because we are a carrier species. Unlike other species, like turtles (independent species) that give birth and leave their young to fend for themselves, our babies are meant to be carried, promoting calmness and security. I later learned it wasn’t a coincidence that my babies were always so content when being carried or held. There are numerous physiological and psychological benefits of keeping babies close to their mothers, such as oxytocin release, reduced cortisol levels, improved breathing and heart rate for babies, and enhanced bonding with mum, among many others.
Once I understood this, it all made sense—co-sleeping, breastfeeding, baby-wearing—it became clear why my babies were always happiest when we were connected and upset when we weren’t. It also made me reflect on how sad it is that our society often promotes detachment from our children and ridicules parents who respond immediately to their babies' or children's cries and needs, as if we're creating a problem when, in reality, we are just following our biological design.
In my opinion, It’s such a shame because this detachment or "coldness," if you will, creates a ripple effect of unhappy babies and children, and as an extension, unhappy parents. This cycle continues because parents keep receiving advice that doesn’t align with our natural instincts. Our children keep longing for what they innately know is right but often don’t get, leading them to learn otherwise, which one can imagine creates a range of negative side effects in the long term.
Whenever I could, I would carry my twins in a carrier, like two little joeys. Not only did it free up my hands, but it was also the cutest thing ever! Having twins feels like being a mini celebrity; every time I stepped out of the house, people would stop me just because I had twins. But when I carried them in a carrier, I could barely walk a few meters without someone "awing" or making a comment about how adorable they looked. I even had strangers asking to take photos of us!
But all cuteness aside, when Mila and Thomas were in the carrier, they were as calm as could be. They would fall asleep almost instantly, or if not, they’d just enjoy watching the world go by from the safety and coziness of being so close to mumma.
At first, I had a carrier where I could carry them both in the front—I loved that one. It was like walking around hugging your favorite cozy pillow. Later, I got another carrier that allowed me to have one bub in front and one on my back. Both carriers were great for different reasons, but the second one also had the bonus of splitting into two, so when my husband and I went out together, he could carry a baby too.
If I could still carry my twins in a pouch these days, I would. And I’m pretty sure that even though they are five now and as tall as baby giraffes, they’d still love it, because even today, they are my little shadows. And I love it.
The Benefits of Babywearing/ Childwearing
1. Promotes Bonding: Baby/child wearing helps build a deep emotional connection between you and your child. The closeness makes them feel secure and loved—exactly where they’re meant to be.
2. Reduces Crying: Babies who are carried more often tend to cry less. There’s something so comforting and soothing about being snuggled up close to mumma or dad that helps calm a fussy baby almost instantly.
3. Encourages Healthy Development: Wearing your baby means they’re right there with you, seeing the world from your level. It’s incredible how much they absorb from being up high and exposed to everyday life—it’s like a front-row seat to learning.
4. Convenience: Let’s be honest, having your hands free while keeping your baby close is a game-changer. Whether you’re making dinner or just going for a walk, babywearing makes it all so much easier.
5. Better Sleep: Babies who are worn often sleep better and longer. The gentle rocking motion as you move and the comfort of being next to a parent work magic to help them drift off peacefully.